Maybe She Is Right

by Mary O'Bryan on October 16, 2011

Had 14 for dinner the other night. Used my bone china, sterling silver, Irish crystal, and white linen napkins. My china seems to be slowly cracking. It’s Wedgewood. I have about 6 plates that I am no longer using. I don’t want to replace them because I would rather buy something new if they all break. As I was setting the table I noticed that the forks had tarnish at the ends so I got out the silver polish and gave them a quick rub down. Took about 15 minutes. Of course, after I polished them, I had to wash and dry them by hand before I could put them on the table.

Then I pulled the chair up to the cabinet that holds the crystal water glasses. I carefully carried the glasses two at a time into the dining room. Some had been broken in previous years and had to be replaced by a different pattern because my original is not longer available.

Next was finding enough white napkins for 14 people. I usually put my napkins up ironed and folded so when I need them they are ready to go.

After the party I felt myself resenting anyone that actually USED the napkin. I spent about 45 minutes spraying Oxyclean on lipstick, red wine, and spaghetti stains. I rubbed each place mat and napkin vigorously until the stain was gone, put them in the washing machine, hung them on hangers to dry, and someday soon I will iron them, fold them, and place them back in the cabinet ready for the next time.

The silver went straight into the dishwasher, except the antique knives with ivory handles. They need special care so they are washed and dried by hand. All the silver is then stored in a large wardrobe that is lined with a cheaper version of Pacific Cloth that prevents tarnish. I guess it doesn’t totally prevent tarnish but most things in there don’t have to be polished very often. The last time it was all polished was the summer that Bride worked for me. She spent 8 hours a day doing what needed to be done around the house. It was our worst summer together…ever. Lots of tension. She swore that NO ONE works 8 hours a day anymore…That was in her teenage years before she had a real job.

The crystal was left for the next day. Washed and dried by hand. Stood on the chair as I put them up two at a time so as not to break them.

A lot of trouble. Yes. The table looked nice. But, maybe Bride is right. Bride has not selected bone china, sterling silver, crystal, or table linens. She is much more practical in her selections. Yes, maybe she is right.

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Groom’s Side, Bride’s Side

by Mary O'Bryan on September 29, 2011

When I attend a wedding I am usually greeted by an usher that asks the question, “Bride or groom’s side?” I always opt for the groom’s side no matter what my relationship is to the bride. It is very simple. I want to see the front of the bride and not her back. I like to sit in the closest pew to the front that has an aisle seat available. I always motion for my husband to enter the pew first because I want to sit on the aisle with nothing obstructing my view of the wedding party as they come down the aisle toward the altar. I will never scoot down the pew when someone comes to my row. Instead I will smile, turn my knees to one side and let them crawl over me. I was there first, on purpose.

How fun to be in charge of a wedding and sit where you want to sit. I am switching the sides! The traditional bride’s side will be the groom’s side. The traditional groom’s sided will be the bride’s side. I want to see Bride’s face. Not the back of their head. Bride didn’t care. She didn’t even know that sides existed at weddings.

I will also be sitting on the aisle seat. I will be sitting on the front row. I will save a place for my husband next to me my placing my purse there.

How will this be communicated to everyone? Not really sure. I have told Groom’s mother of my plan. She commented, “Well, the ushers will know where to seat everyone, so I can’t see that it will be a problem.” OOPS. We are not having ushers! I picture the family gathering inside the Mansion the day of the wedding. I picture a bell ringing to announce that it is now time to move outside for the private, family ceremony. I picture myself being the first one out the door and seated on the ‘wrong’ side. I picture grandchildren seating their grandparents in the correct rows. I picture it all going so smoothly.

But I also had pictured stamps on the reply envelopes and had NOT pictured giant smears from the stupid map cards to be all over the invitations.

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Stamps and Smears

September 22, 2011

Things are starting to go wrong. I forgot to put stamps on the reply return envelopes. As Bride said, “None of my friends have stamps and they will just RSVP to the website.” We’ll see. At least now she can use all the leftover stamps for thank you notes. And the stupid map card!!! It [...]

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A Tasty Kidnapping

September 15, 2011

My in-laws live a mile from our home. I told my mother-in-law that in 24 hours I was kidnapping her and it was a surprise as to where we were going and what we would be doing. “Pack a suitcase with your toothbrush, nightgown, robe, and slippers. Be ready to leave by 2pm the next [...]

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Super Wrinkled or Stained

September 8, 2011

I have had such a bad 24 hours with this wedding planning that the B.O.B. (brother of the Bride) has given me permission to blog about him today so I can get my mind off of all the things that are going wrong. That is why one blogs waaaay after the fact: when you can [...]

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The Tent

August 11, 2011

I wanted to title this “Blame Beth Moore” but figured that only a Baptist would know what I was referring to. Beth Moore is the leading lady of in-depth Bible study for Baptist women, of which I now am one. I am currently in her Tabernacle study for the second time. The first time was [...]

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The Fitting

August 4, 2011

What a fun day. The dress arrived in the store. We picked it up and took it to the Alteration Lady (hereto referred to as A Lady). I had invited the ceremony officiant’s wife to go with us because this dress has a built-in bustier that someone, not me, will need to lace up before [...]

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Holding a Grudge

July 28, 2011

Sometimes it helps to hold a grudge. It can protect you from further hurt. My grudge against a hand caligraphied  wedding program began on a summer afternoon. I was attending a wedding by myself because my husband was at the bachelor party of our son: a fishing trip to the coast. The wedding was lovely. [...]

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Invitation Decisions

July 21, 2011

I went to the city to pick up the envelopes. Instead of the envelopes being ready, everything was ready. I wasn’t expecting that and my stomach began to do flips. I refused to open the box and had the helper load it into the car. Back in their office she had one copy of everything [...]

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Music

July 14, 2011

Bride says there will be no “Ode to Joy”, “Canon in D”, or any Bach to speak of. Instead the bridesmaids and groomsmen will come up the sidewalk to The Beatles and the BeachBoys. We are still in negotiations on the tune that accompanies the Father of the Bride as he escorts her down the [...]

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